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Dizon,MicaellaJoyC.August05,2018
COHABITATIONISASIN
Marriageissuchabigcommitmentandthere’snodoubtaboutit.Overthe
years,inanunobtrusiveissuelike”CohabitationBeforeMarriage”that’sconsidering
asasin.ThishasspreadtomanycountriesincludingPhilippines.Somecoupleor
peoplemightsaythatmarriageis”justapieceofpaper”andoneofthereasonswhy
therearesomecouplechoosetoliveinwithhis/herpartnerisbecausetheywantto
knowmoreabouteachotheranddoingitforatrialintheirrelationship.
ItissurprisingthatnotonlyinourcountryitisillegalalsointhefourU.S.
States,wherewethoughtthatitisjustfinebecauseofthewayoftheirlivingor
lifestyle.TherearearticlesaboutcohabitationliketheArticle147of
theFamilyCodeacknowledgestherelationshipbetweenamanandawomanlivingin
witheachotherlikeamarriedcoupleandaboutthepropertiesiftheyarenotmarried
whatdoeachotherownaretheirsonly.Accordingtomyresearch,Mississippi,
Michigan,Florida,andVirginiacurrentlyhavelawsonthebooksbanning
cohabitation.InVirginia,oncecouplecaughtdoingcohabitationthere’sapunishable
offensewheretheywillbepaying$500fineforthefirstoffense.Thelegallanguage
andpenaltiesaresimilarintheothermentionedstates,exceptMississippi,wherethe
lawbans”unlawfulcohabitation”inwhichamanandwomenlivetogetheranditcan
beproventhattheyhad”habitualsexualintercourse.”
Let'sfocusfirsthereonwhatthenegativeeffectsofcohabitation.Commonly,
weallknowthatalsothereasonwhyunmarriedcoupleschoosecohabitationis
becauseofhavingtheirprivacyinsexormakinglovebutinsomereligionitis
consideredasasinfulact.Inthebibleverse,1Corinthians7:8-9,”Totheunmarried
andthewidowsIsaythatitisgoodforthemtoremainsingle,asIam.Butifthey
cannotexerciseself-control,theyshouldmarry.Foritisbettertomarrythantoburn
withpassion.”itexplainsthatforthosepeoplewhocan’tcontrolthemselvestohave
sexormakelovewiththeirpartnerbeforemarriageisasinner,insteadtheyshould
marryeachotherbeforedoingthosethings.Intheeyesofmany,cohabitationisreally
illegalandasinfulactfromGodbecauseweshouldgiveimportanceaboutthe
sanctityofmarriage,byrespectingourGodcouplesshouldnotlivingtogetherwithout
theblessingfromHim.
BasedonwhatIhaveresearched,someofthereasonswhyothercouplechose
cohabitation,thereisafearoffallout,ourattitudeschangesovertheyearsofbeing
togetherandtakingalessonfromthosewhatthey’veexperiencewhiletheyareonthe
sameroof.Fearoffalling-out,noonewhat’sadivorceorabreakupsoby
cohabitationtheyaretestingtheirrelationshipwhilenotgettingmarried,whenaman
andawomanisalreadymarriedandfallouthascomeittakesalongprocessfora
divorce,inourcountryannulmentisjusttheonlyimplementedfornowmaybe,
unlikeifthey’rejustlivingtogetherbutnotyetmarriedtheotheronecanleaveeasily
ifhe/shedidn’twanttostayinthatrelationship.Alsoifwhenhispartnergotpregnant
buthe’snotyetintogettingmarrieditwouldbebadforthewomenandthebabyshe
iscarryingbecausetheyarenotacompletefamily,thebabywillhaveasinglemother,
thebabywillgrowuplivingwithoutafatherbyhis/herside.Attitudechange,
changingisinevitableasthey’vesaid,astimepassesbywechange.Takingalesson

fromexperiences,everytimewe’vedoneamistakewecanlearnfromit.Inacouple
that’slivingtogethertheycanknowwhattheyshoulddoifthatsituationhappens
again.
Inconclusion,cohabitationhavepositiveeffectsbutnegativeeffectsaremore
inthesociety.Mostly,itcanleadintoabrokenfamily,likeIhavementioned,into
earlypregnancyorunplannedpregnancy.Thatcanresulttofinancingproblemsfor
thechild.Itisimportanttofocusinourselveswhilewearenotmarriedbecauseifwe
getmarrieditdohavealotofresponsibilitiestotake.Sexbeforemarriagecanbe
basedonthecoupleorapersonwhowillbedecidingtodoitornot.Bynotjust
respectingGod,alsoourparents,we,women,shouldprotectourselvesnotforthe
otherbutalsoforus.So,cohabitationshouldnotbetoleratedinsidethesociety
becausewemustupholdthesanctityofmarriage.
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